#cwcsummerschool class no. 4: how to create deeper connections
#cwcsummerschool is back! This summer our team will share more insights behind your favorite blogs every Monday, until August 27.
Through a special weekly assigment + an online class via Instagram live (one week after the assignment).
If you've been following my monthly reflections during the first half of this year, you know I'm obsessed with reflection and understanding human behaviour. This week's #cwcsummerschool homework assignment is focused on exactly this.
But first, a short intro to this week's homework.
I - Awura - spoke to a group of (aspiring) creative entrepreneurs last week Friday. Creative Mornings Amsterdam invited me to speak about 'community' and in preparation of my talk, I read a lot of Brené Brown (obviously).
As I prepared my talk I reflected on the communities in my own life. I started to analyze these communities, my behaviour, the behaviour of the other individuals and most of all the connection (or lack thereof) I experienced within these communities. Through my analysation, I started to realize how important connection on the basis of our shared humanity is to thrive in life.
During Creative Mornings, I explained Brené Brown’s theory on connection, illustrated with stories from my own life. From how I experienced disconnection when I was 9 on the dance academy, and how I experienced connection intensely after my father passed away.
One of the theories I explained to the audience is the difference between "fitting in" and "belonging" with the words of Brené Brown:
"Fitting in and belonging are not the same thing." In fact, fitting in is one of the greatest barriers to belonging. (...) Fitting in is about assessing a situation and becoming who you need to be in order to be accepted. Belonging, on the other hand, doesn’t require us to change who are; it requires us to be who we are."
Belonging is the innate desire to be part of something larger than us. "Fitting in" and "belonging" are our ways to fulfill this desire. However, when we are trying to fit in, we struggle to feel a sense of belonging. This is because our desire to know that we’re a part of something, not despite our vulnerabilities, but because of them, is not being fulfilled, but rather being blocked. After all fitting requires you to put on a mask, which prevents connection rather than supports it.
This week's homeworks is incredibly short.
1. write down which communities you are a part of (on- and offline);
2. describe every single community with one word which characterizes the community (e.g. "unity", "violent", "supportive", "glue" etc.)
3. write down per community if the group is influencing your life positively or negatively, and how you as a part of the group and create a (re)new(ed) sense of belonging within the group.
I have finished my homework, what’s next?
Send teacher @awuraabena a DM with your homework summary, and block August 27, 7PM in your agenda for Awura's class live on @creativewomencollective’s Instagram.